I’ve never heard the term emotional sobriety before either but listening to you talk a few things come to mind:
1. Ohmigod you are SO hard on yourself! It’s f***ing brutal this season in life having young kids & elderly parents is one thing but adding into the mix Parkinson’s, your dads numerous ops and that you live 100s of miles away: that is A LOT!!
2. Boundaries. It’s great that you are aware of how your dad triggers you but no is a complete sentence you are allowed to give yourself permission to say no I’m not reading this article.
3. Don’t underestimate the toll all of this takes on you- your mental health and your relationships. It’s tough being away from your team of cheerleaders ie Jimmy and the kids
4. the mental load is huge for you - go easy on yourself scale back on what you can, do the bare minimum that you need to do to get by.
Im no expert just a follower that a lot of this stuff resonates with. Above all look after yourself.
I've never heard the term emotional sobriety before. I'll be looking for articles about it in the morning but if you can recommend some reading I'd be grateful x
I have only just listened to this. I recall many similar experiences with my mother and I doubt we are alone in being triggered by our parent’s behaviour. You are trying to do your very best for your mum and dad and your father’s comments are naturally perceived by you as criticism. Very few people can handle criticism with equanimity, don’t you think? I agree with Zoe - her no.4.
Thank you so much for this very useful airing of such an important subject, Cat.
I’ve never heard the term emotional sobriety before either but listening to you talk a few things come to mind:
1. Ohmigod you are SO hard on yourself! It’s f***ing brutal this season in life having young kids & elderly parents is one thing but adding into the mix Parkinson’s, your dads numerous ops and that you live 100s of miles away: that is A LOT!!
2. Boundaries. It’s great that you are aware of how your dad triggers you but no is a complete sentence you are allowed to give yourself permission to say no I’m not reading this article.
3. Don’t underestimate the toll all of this takes on you- your mental health and your relationships. It’s tough being away from your team of cheerleaders ie Jimmy and the kids
4. the mental load is huge for you - go easy on yourself scale back on what you can, do the bare minimum that you need to do to get by.
Im no expert just a follower that a lot of this stuff resonates with. Above all look after yourself.
Yep - I am traditionally very hard on myself. It's a theme that continues to crop up but I'm working on it! x
I've never heard the term emotional sobriety before. I'll be looking for articles about it in the morning but if you can recommend some reading I'd be grateful x
I will definitely have a look around and send you some bits x
I have only just listened to this. I recall many similar experiences with my mother and I doubt we are alone in being triggered by our parent’s behaviour. You are trying to do your very best for your mum and dad and your father’s comments are naturally perceived by you as criticism. Very few people can handle criticism with equanimity, don’t you think? I agree with Zoe - her no.4.
Thank you so much for this very useful airing of such an important subject, Cat.